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Cake day: July 18th, 2023

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  • I was diagnosed with Celiac disease about 15 years ago - had the endoscopy and then a couple of years later, had the blood marker test to verify. My reactions to eating gluten have not been consistent, and I don’t know what to make of it. More often than not, I get the diarrhea and bloating. Sometimes I get the nausea, but only once have I thrown up from eating gluten. Sometimes I get nothing at all (not as common, but it happens).

    Then there was a period of about 1.5 years where I’d get random swelling in my face (usually in my eyes and lips), and hives. My sinus cavities would often get very swollen and irritated, too. But that suddenly stopped, and is no longer a symptom.

    Been to a few different gastroenterologists over the years, and went to an allergy doctor when I was having all the facial swellings. Nobody was able to explain why I have such inconsistent reactions, but they are confident I have Celiac disease.







  • Why is the onus on everyone else? Generally speaking, I believe that if something is making someone upset/hurt, it’s on them to let the other person know that. Without deep, intimate knowledge of the other person (and honestly, even with that level of relationship), it’s hard to know when something that is ok to you is completely offensive to the other person.

    And just for emphasis, this is my belief in general - not just in the context of misgendering trans peeps. I feel like it’s not fair to stay mad at someone for crossing a line they didn’t even know existed. I’ve applied this mentality to my marriage, and it’s honestly done wonders for improving my relationship with my husband and has opened up so much room for honest communication and building respect/trust in each other.


  • But there are so many different types of people in the world. How is someone expected to know that something is specifically offensive to one person, unless that person tells them?

    I habitually refer to everyone as “dude”, but I certainly would stop calling someone “dude” if they asked me to stop. I know a lot of people feel the same way that I do, so please let it be known if you’re uncomfortable with certain terms. Sure, there are people that are going to be total assholes about it, but I’d say that’s a great indicator to steer clear of that person.