Tomato went on vacation, never came back

I guess it heavily depends on where you live. Where I live there are zero stray cats just wandering the streets. The shelter I got one of my cats from actually did have a ton of former strays, which really surprised me, but that shelter is smack dab in the middle of a pretty rural area and there you’ll have some. But definitely not in the cities.

Same here. It’s simply not as active as Reddit, obviously. But I found that I was wasting way too much time on Reddit anyway. Infinity was still working for free this whole time, which was the 3pa I used for years, but I still deleted it about a week ago. My sub feed was way less active and the all page was even worse than usual with 80% just aita kind of text posts. I’m on lemmy maybe 30 minutes a day, but that’s a good thing for me.

Is she food obsessed the whole day or just in the morning? One of my cats was like that, the whole day, and it turned out she actually had worms (my fault, I didn’t think it was necessary to deworm an indoor cat), and now that it’s treated she is very chill with food.

Why doesn’t you mom take that poor cat to the vet? Compulsive grooming is a symptom, not a thing onto itself. She probably would also be a lot sweeter if she wasn’t constantly in pain or itchy or stressed or whatever is wrong with her.

I moved into one of these buildings about 1.5 years ago and it’s indeed awesome. We also have no gas and tons of solar panels on the roof so last year with the insane energy prices in the whole of Europe I spend €2,83 for all my energy including heating for 8 months, and I’m easily cold so I always have the heating on. The only problem is as you say to get rid of heat in summer, but they opted for smaller windows than is standard so less heat is getting in in the first place. And because of the great insulation you also have pretty much no traffic noise from outside. The only complaint I have is that the mechanical ventilation can get quite loud when it’s windy outside, but the benefits are so overwhelming I can’t be that bothered by it.

Haha so true. A friend of mine used to have two big tomcats and a little puffball void girl. Guess who was the boss in that household lol. She had those boys under her paw

She walks upright with them but only backwards. Very strange cat. Still love her!

Haha, if it’s up to my white and red girl she always has the highest priority for petting! She can definitely be a bit possessive of me lol

The black one is perfect but my white and red girl needs to work on her loaf form!

Yeah, the only thing you gotta be careful with is wool, because that seriously shrinks like crazy with anything over 20°C. Everything else just goes on 30-40°C, good luck.

That assumes you have bought you own house which you can alter. Where I live it’s 60% owns and 40% rents, but the cities, where it’s much warmer and which heat up faster and thus need ac the most, have more renters than buyers. So you’re dependent on whoever you’re renting from to do anything like that.

Lmao. We do need ac though, the problem is Europe has a ton of older houses which were build when it was much more beneficial to try and keep warmth in rather than out. And it’s a pain in the ass to retrofit all these houses with ac. I live in a flat which was build about 15 years ago and the difference compared to my previous apartments is enormous. Still no ac, but it’s not needed here because of proper isolation and smaller windows.

He’s just a silly little guy

10 months clean baby 🤙I quit for lots of reasons but the idea that my cats would be scared and alone and have to be rehoused if I died is absolutely one of them.

Go get one from a local shelter

Have you tried simply being too poor to ever eat out and being forced to cook everything yourself?

I definitely do. My dumb-dumb brain doesn’t really get the whole neurotransmitter thing, but as stingy as it is with dopamine and nor-adrenaline, as generous it is with endorphins. Oh, you’re 5 minutes into your cardio warm-up of your hour long work-out? Enjoy this heap of endorphins for the next 2 hours. I feel good, it’s extremely meditative because thoughts are just on pause, I love getting stronger and more in shape, and I always go in the sauna at the end of my work-out which is a huge motivator before going and makes it all even better at the end. I always walk out of the gym completely zen and satisfied.

If you don’t get such an easy endorphin rush, I don’t know what to do. I can imagine it would suck in that case.

I used to have a pretty intense not-like-the-other-girls fase in my teens, and I never wore skirts or dresses, and felt the same way you do. Then I got over that internalized misogyny and started experimenting with clothes a little, and the first time I put on a dress it was like a hallelujah moment. The most comfortable thing in the goddamn world. They do not restrict your movement at all, that’s only a problem if you wear knee-high pencil skirts of stiff fabric. In colder seasons you wear leggings under them which are equally comfortable. It was so incredibly comfy I did a complete 180 and it took me 10 years to wear a pair of pants again, and that’s only because the waist high mom jeans in style now are so loose and non-restricting. Any other style of pants I won’t touch with a 10 feet pole.

Damn, almost 28 years on this planet and I’ve just now learned that there’s a very handy separate option for that. Kinda makes sense if you think about it for 5 seconds, but I just never did. I do know how to deal with images properly though, so I’m not a complete idiot.