• PixelProf@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    I’ve gotten by too long and too successfully letting my impulses keep everything chugging along well enough that now that there’s a massive range of responsibility, dependence upon me, and deadlines with major consequences, hoping I’ll impulsively get around to things had begun putting a painful spotlight on previously undiagnosed ADHD.

    I think the key to learning is to not do the thing out of impulse, but to train setting a goal of doing the thing and then painstakingly doing nothing until that thing is done. That’s the skill to train, not the thing that’s getting done.

    But now, I’ll just wait for the time that that skill is the impulsive thing to work on and keep on keeping on.

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      1 year ago

      Setting a goal could help, but sometimes it might not. You might get depressed that your goals aren’t being met just by going off your impulses

    • glandrid@lemmy.ca
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      1 year ago

      Are you me? lol

      A friend recently told me something that has really helped:

      • We will all die one day and things will keep chugging along; accept it.
      • Do not jeopardize your personal well being nor that of the people who matter to you; you’re boss won’t remember all the late nights, but you loved ones will.
      • Keeping with that: be picky with your time. Chose and accept work which you bring unique value to. If someone else can do it, let them, and if the work must get done, then someone will do it.