DO whatever makes you feel better is not bad advice. Some of these studies have overarching trends that I do believe - caffeine and Adderall are protective to your brain, a little bit of speed keeps the brain healthy.

Alcohol and Benadryl are risky over time, so a habit of downers is detrimental to the brain over time.

Logically this makes sense. I think to some extent it’s just metabolism/weight, staying lean is healthier all round but there does seem to be a pattern of results showing a habit of doing a little bit of stimulants is good for you.

I’m imagining he was an obese single dad scrolling Tinder as he was telling her this.

I’m going to second (third, fourth, fifth) the Roth IRA recommendation. You can set it up with Schwab or whoever and can make recurring contributions too (set it and forget it) there are income limits so if you are really raking it in one year you can’t contribute that year but whatever you put in there is still (usually) going to grow in value. If you have an emergency situation and need the money you can withdraw contributions, not earnings, ahead of retirement, so it’s not lost to you, but working for you and much easier at tax time, no worries about how to report it.

New College WAS a school where kids sort of designed their own major, did a project or thesis and defended it. The Veggie Bus that ran on used oil from McDonald’s fryers was a New College project. It was good for hyper achievers who didn’t fit into a canned curriculum. I don’t know that I’d call it “liberal” but it was progressive and challenging.

This apparently annoyed the fuck out of the governor for some reason. Maybe he just doesn’t like the idea of smart weirdos. But it’s those people who move us forward, the smart ones who don’t fit in.

That can’t be unique. I think most guys want a woman who can hold a full time job. That is not a big ask, it’s like a minimum - it makes absolute sense, you will be stronger together. I would be extremely suspicious of a guy who didn’t want me to work. Even if they made so much and wanted to cover all the bills, great. I work, we have some money to save and I can go get my legs waxed or whatever without having to ask for money to do it. I do not want someone to have that sort of control. I disagree strongly with the commenters saying that you should bend on this, it is not at all an outrageous thing to need.

As someone with kids, I wouldn’t have dated anyone seriously who didn’t have kids, and my now-husband says the same. It just isn’t likely to work out. Not impossible but in general parents do relate better to other parents, they understand you need time for the kids, and understand that’s not all you are, that you are also still a person with adult desires.

So you may get screened out BY the single parent.

Discreet and discrete from the kids hookups? Not the same criteria. Just attraction and compatibility. If it’s just spending some time together, that sort of dating, sure. I didn’t want those to go anywhere though. Just some relaxation and fun with others who were also in the same mindset. When I was ready to seriously date, those guys actually wanted to, but I didn’t think it would work out.

I guess I agree with the consensus here - if you WANT a ready made family because you want to raise kids but not procreate, sure go for it, just wanted to give you the view from the other side.

We had an A/P manager who chewed her way through 3 entire staffs before management decided the problem was actually her. Two of them collectively quit in a group on one day! That was the most outrageous I think. How did it take FIFTEEN people quitting because of her management before they fired her?

Also one manager who came in shitface drunk and swinging when she got fired. That was the most dramatic.

The fact that school kids have gotten so much nicer than when I was in school.

Crime dropping worldwide but particularly in my city.

And honestly? Plunging birth rates, even though I have a lot of kids and stepkids and love it. I do feel like it’s freedom mostly, people are more free to not have kids and it will keep the population from exploding.

My ex had long hair and wanted me to cut it, he pulled it over one shoulder and said “Cut it, just cut it here” and I said “no, it will be slanty” (because he had it pulled over to one side). He insisted, I shrugged and did it .

“IT’S SLANTY, WHAT DID YOU DO!”

Weekly for both. We live in the tropics, love sex so wash sheets often; shower daily but use same towel all week.

Pizza Hut best value per calorie. One slice can sustain you for a day. If there is a way to stuff more calories into a pizza they will find it. The thick crust one, refrigerated then reheated is so good, all that extra grease makes the crust crisp up in a very pleasant way.

Mostly though, if I want pizza I make it.

Marcus King ROCKS and he is not good looking. Charismatic as fuck on stage too.

I think there is about the same proportion of good music to bad as there ever was, you just don’t hear the bad music of the past because it didn’t last. Survival bias, I think it’s called.

You want broad sweeping categories? Maybe categorize by behaviour?

Crawlers Slitherers Swimmers Flyers Stationary creatures Sunlight eaters Carnivores Plant eaters Omnivores

I think decide what your groups actually are first, then label. So a fish in this list would be swimming carnivore.

That is what I’d do if I ever was divorced or widowed. If we can make it and retire I don’t want more kids, we raised so many. But it’s really the best work I’ve done. I would take in a couple more if I was single. Not babies, older kids. It’s hard though.

I have a handful of kids, all with the same dad. 4 different hair colors. Straight, curly, wavy. 2 blue eyed, 2 brown. Different complexions, different face shapes. They did not even look related as kids, though all have some resemblance to me or their dad’s mom. As adults and older teens now, they do look more alike because they are similarly built, but if you didn’t know you wouldn’t think they were siblings.

This drove my ex crazy when he want through his wacko racist phase.

It depends. I worked at one company without a dedicated HR department (a payroll company) and it ran fine without it. Managers of each department worked with upper management and finance to decide staffing, we went to management and if needed (I never did) upper management or the lady who did our payroll (they handled both our payroll and client payrolls) or the benefits department (same deal) for most of the sort of things HR does at my company.

I think it’s bloated at my current company, there are some people with not a whole job, but it’s not like they do nothing or don’t provide value, they do. But like, one guy’s job is apparently employee development and all he does is choose some general “learning software” that we then have access to. Gives some useless and painfully boring presentations on the aforementioned software that provide nothing of value. Then I have no idea what he does with the rest of the year. Why is that one whole job, when the rest of us basically juggle multiple jobs?

I’m a lady but have a kids living room (like we have a separate kids wing in our house just because of the way it was added to over the years before we bought it) and when the kids move out that is becoming a space like that. Absolutely a 1950s lounge for us. Pool table!

Our mayor is a lesbian who was chief of police. Conservative Democrat. We seem to flip between democrats, who improve the storm drains and try to do things to help citizens, then Republicans who are focused on superficial beautification of the city and paying businesses to come here. All have historically been in bed with developers and there hadn’t been much planning. It works ok.

Some of the “city” functions are run by the county not the city - education, transit, health. The county is much more backwards and conservative than the city. Those things are in much worse shape.

Yeah, it’s definitely an inexperience/lack of skill problem on my part. I know that because of how much I love manual shift cars. Anything with two wheels I am just trying to keep upright and point it in the right direction.

Enunciate!